Life and Decisions

Lots on my mind today. 😌

Images. Videos. Realities.

They’re messing with my peace. 🤨

Sometimes, I get afraid of walking the path of marriage.

Not because I doubt the person I may end up with

but because of what I see, what’s happening around us, and the kind of world we’re living in.

Some scenes are chaotic.

Some stories are disturbing.

And many are far from what love, commitment, and responsibility should look like.

One of the reasons I work so hard, building the future, planning ahead, and making intentional life decisions is because I don’t want certain kinds of men chasing after my daughters someday.

You know the type:

Men who glorify recklessness.

Men who fake a lifestyle but abandon responsibility.

Men who break hearts without remorse, leaving behind a trail of pain.

Men who live for clout, not character.

Truth is, some have already damaged our generation.

Many women have been left heartbroken.

Some are now single mums, carrying the weight of careless love and empty promises. Probably the unfortunate women would have fixed the pair of good men yet to find the right ones.

Girls are in trouble.

And if we’re not intentional, the next generation will inherit even deeper wounds.

Let’s be fair, the imbalance is on both sides.

Some women have also added to the chaos,

making genuine, hardworking men feel like they’re not “enough” just because they don’t fit into a superficial mold.

Everything feels scattered. 😔

It’s like value is outdated and loudness now speaks louder than wisdom.

To those already married and raising kids:

Please train them well.

Raise them with values. With discipline. With love.

Only bring into the world what your emotional, financial, and spiritual capacity can truly nurture.

Yes, we’re meant to multiply but not recklessly.

To those of us yet to choose a life partner:

Congratulations, we still have the power of choice.

Use it wisely.

Have the real conversations now.

Put aside the filters, the hype, and the social media fairytales.

Write out real questions. Talk. Listen. Understand.

Make sure both of you know how you plan to paddle life’s canoe, not just in sunshine, but through storms.

Make it intentional.

Don’t fall for vibes, hype, or fleeting attractions.

Look before you leap.

There are bills to pay.

Children to raise.

Storms to weather.

After the “I do.”

Choose someone who is ready to build with you through seasons, the volume of this should be louder. It seems many don’t understand what this mean, not just selfies or shines at parties.

Through responsibility, not just reputation.

Because beauty fades.

Steeze won’t raise children.

Loud music and dance steps won’t pay school fees.

Joyrides won’t raise a family.

If you’re not having real conversations now,

life will demand real answers later and not everyone will be ready.

Let’s build a better future.

A future where values, not vibes, lead the way.

Where responsibility isn’t outdated.

And where our sons and daughters are safe, strong, and guided.

God be with us all.

Ire o ✌️

Written by:

Stephen Opeyemi Owolabi

24/04/2025

@Owolabi Stephen Opeyemi